I'm in the midst of dealing with these issues, so here's my input based on where I'm at right now.
My previous set of glasses, in an effort to hold off bifocals for a few more years, were set to monovision: the right eye for distance, the left eye for close-up. I disliked it, and my brain never properly adjusted to the setup. Furthermore, the bassoon and, especially, contrabassoon tended to block my left eye, so as my eyes got worse as I got older, my right eye became less and less able to read the music, although the conductor was in focus (insert jokes here).
I recently went to the optometrist. I discussed my specific needs with him. When I mentioned that I'm a bassoonist, he started rattling off names such as Sherman Walt and Dick Plaster, so I guess he knows his way around bassoonists. :-)
He and the optician made a pair of glasses with progressive lenses for me. Their opinion was that I would like them in most of my life, but that I might or might not like them for music. They were right that I like them in general (much better than their monovision predecessors), but they don't work well for me for music: it goes in and out of focus as I scan from the top to the bottom of the music, and I can't move my head to adjust the focus because of the nature of playing the bassoon and contra.
Tomorrow I have an appointment with the optician to be fitted for a pair of music glasses. They'll be single focal length (not bifocals), set to make the music in focus and the conductor, well, almost in focus. We'll see how well they work. I probably won't be able to use them to drive home, but I'll have my regular glasses for that.
A few people have made reference to "executive" glasses. I've been told that they've been discontinued, alas.
I haven't worn contact lenses in decades nor have I had surgery, so I can't help with either of those.
I hope this helps someone.